Jul
16
Help! I’m Psychotic!
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Helen from Vegas asks: My boyfriend’s ex girlfriend constantly contacts him. I’ve approached him about it but he swears she’s a friend and that I shouldn’t worry. Would I be crossing a line by contacting her?
He Says: Uhh …. YES. You would look like a jealous woman who is threatened by his feelings for his ex. And chances are, he does have feelings for her, but it’s entirely possible that it’s not physical. Maybe he just likes her personality and has nice memories, just as you probably do about your previous bfs. You could try trusting him and not cause a stink, unless of course you have reason to think he wants something more from her, in which case you have to make him choose. Life is about choices. Men can get easily irritated by insecure and jealous women. If you really want to manipulate the situation, invite her over for dinner with your bf then subtly rip her apart after she leaves. He may see what a pathetic little shrew she is being.
She Says: You would definitely be crossing the line. Not only will she think you’re a freak show- he will too. What would you even say? So.. are you secretely dating my boyfriend? Clearly if he still wanted to be with her or vice versa they would be together! He wants to be friends with her. I think that’s fine and I would just accept her. The one thing I would not accept is if he starts to tell her his secrets and doesn’t tell you. At some point you should be his best girlfriend so do things to gain his trust. Like not calling his ex behind his back.
Jun
22
I Just Want Him to Go Away
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Rowella writes: I’ve gone out on a couple of dates with a guy who I met online and I just know, in my gut, that it’s not going to go anywhere. How do I let him down gently?
She Says: It sounds like you respect him – otherwise why even bother letting him down gently? If that’s the case then simply say (in a nice tone) that you don’t see the two of you working out in the long term. Most guys understand that and he’ll likely be interested in being friends! Datingish has a good post on how to let a guy down effectively.
He Says: This is pretty easy. Lots of people go out on a couple of dates and decide they don’t want to get really involved. Just make it simple: tell him the chemistry really isn’t there and wish him good luck. Tell him you’ll mail his socks back….
Jun
16
Turning a Knob Around
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Iris writes: I hate that my man doesn’t open the door for me. How can I train him to have better manners?
He Says: This is the kind of schizophrenia that New York men have to deal with all the time. Women demand to be treated as powerful economic equals, yet they secretly want to be treated like princesses to be swept away to a man’s castle. Some women get offended when you pay for dinner, like we’re buying you. Others get offended when you don’t. You offer to split it, they think you’re a loser. Here’s an idea: make a point of ostentatiously holding the door for him. He’ll probably think that’s weird and change his stripes. 
She Says: There are all kinds of men out there. But opening a door for someone is basic. Women do it for women and men do it for men so the least your man can do is step up to the plate for you! If he doesn’t open the door for you give him a pointed look. I’m not saying he needs to do this all the time… it’s OK to be casual. ..but if you’re going out for dinner (for example) he should. If he keeps (not) doing it you might want to mention it. No guy wants to end up with a reputation like this guy and he might not realize how offensive it is! Cast your vote!