Aug
4
I Remember When I Lost My Mind
Filed Under Need Spice, cheating?, crazy women, dumping, i need pleasure and you're not providing it, men in self imposed convents, proposals, run away joe | Leave a Comment
Jesse Asks: My boyfriend has stopped having sex with me. What is going on? He says he’s not in the mood or that he’s tired and it’s been like this for the last 5 months!!! It’s making me crazy!
He Says: Well he has obviously lost interest in you or getting it somewhere else. Since this is the two- ton elephant in the room, you have a right to demand better answers than “I’m tired” or “I’m not in the mood.” In fact, this is clearly a human rights violation. Threaten to haul him into the International Court of Justice in the Hague - your fundamental human needs aren’t being met. Maybe some wig-wearing judge will set him straight.
She Says: I used to think that when this happens it means he’s moved on mentally. Which is still often the case. But other times, men ‘just don’t feel like it’. I know so because friends of mine have been proposed to after this exact thing happened. To me, it means he’s gotten very comfortable with you. This can be a good or a bad thing. Sometimes this means he’s taking you for granted and other times this means that he’s happy and not that sexual. That vibe can only be picked up on by you. You know your man.. if he’s a sexual kind of guy then you may have a problem on your hands.
Jun
23
The Over Excited Male
Filed Under blind dates, crazy women, men in self imposed convents, proposals | 2 Comments
Nancy Rollin Up: My colleague at work set me up with a good friend of hers. We’ve gone out a couple of times, but I really think he’s ready for marriage and I’m not. My colleague keeps on asking me how we’re doing … what do I do?
He Says: It’s nice that your colleague set you up, but let’s face it, blind dates rarely work, since no one knows your chemistry like you do, despite the good intentions of the person setting you up. So I think it’s OK to tell your colleague that you have considerations about your date… You can just say you’re in a different place, or the chemistry isn’t there, or whatever. Most people understand those issues.
She Says: He’s ready for marriage in this recessionary madness? And only after two dates? I’m shocked! and… I think you’re overreacting. First off, I’m sure he likes you but men are always hot and heavy at the start. They build you up in their head and think you’re the one. A few months later you’ll be wondering if he’s ever going to propose. I say these are early days and roll with it. Things are bound to evolve. Time for you to take a breather. And just be vague about it with your coworker. It’s your relationship (not hers) anyway. Unless of course he’s this guy! Then I’d say run for the hills!.