Jul
20
Rage Against the Machine
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Elizabeth from Iowa: I caught my boyfriend taking photos of his ah hem whilst on the computer. It turns out that he has been chatting to random ladies for quite sometime. Should I dump him?
He Says: Yes. Getting it on with random women on the Internet is creepy and weird. Who knows what else he’s up to? You could end up with some pretty ugly diseases. Don’t let that happen.
She Says: Yes! What in the world is he doing? It sounds like he’s got a few things to sort out… like sense of self-respect. Any man who willingly exposes himself to the Internet (which is kind of like putting his dick out on national television) needs a head check. You’re wasting your time hanging out with this one.
Jul
13
Spinnin C’s at the Ta-Ta Bars
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Mrs Carol asks: I have a feeling my husband is cheating on me. What are the warning signs?
He Says: Uhhh, lipstick on the collar?? Another woman’s thong buried in his sock drawer? Those would be pretty clear signs. Unfortunately unless your man has an IQ of 80 or under, that ain’t happening. The fact is that very few men are completely faithful in word, thought and deed, because no woman satisfies them all the time. Who wants chicken every day? So your job is to gauge the satisfaction index in your marriage. If it is low, chances are he’s thinking about greener pastures. If so, time to spice things up and try some new things.
She Says: Oh Dear. Typically when you feel someone is cheating on you they usually are… unless you’re paranoid. He will generally pay less attention to you, be vague about where he’s going, look at his phone a lot or act a nervous around you. What has he been doing thus far? Then again.. sometimes men act that way because they are planning something they haven’t told you about yet like a job promotion or they want to approach you about moving house. All you can do is act like it doesn’t bother you and behave as normal. Something will come out in the open eventually. Good Luck!
Jul
8
The Lapdancer’s Lair
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Helen asks: What would you do if you found out your boyfriend received lap dances at a strip club whilst you were out of town. Would that be considered cheating?
He Says: A woman friend of mine used to say, ‘it doesn’t matter where you get your appetite from as long as you eat at home.’ Men are hard-wired by millions of years of evolution to be attracted to varieties of women, while women are designed to love and rear children. At least that’s what I read somewhere. Why not give your man a lap dance from time to time? Make sure he fills your little thong with $20s though!!
She Says: Um yes. That would be considered cheating. If there is nakedness.. the nakedness of another woman… in his lap… then that’s cheating. How often do you go out of town? Is this a frequent thing? Does he tell you about it? LoveShack has a great discussion on this. And You Tube provides some eye-opening videos .
Jul
7
How To Meet A Decent Man…in NYC
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Julie from NYC: Will I ever meet a decent man in NYC? If so, where?
She Says: It seems that men in New York (Robert Pattison what?) think that the women in New York are just as crazy as the men… which leads me to conclude that either everyone in New York is insane or we need to chill out. If you continue to go out and show up you’re going to eventually meet someone… but the real secret to meeting someone ‘decent’ is to let him come to you. It may be old fashioned but its the truth. And perhaps try getting involved in ‘things’ - sailing group? biking? charity? It will not only improve your chances of meeting someone it will also make you a happier person!
He Says: There are no decent men in New York or anywhere for that matter. We are all scoundrels, two-timers, phonies, hypocrites, liars and worse, especially state governors. But that’s why you love us.
Jun
22
I Just Want Him to Go Away
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Rowella writes: I’ve gone out on a couple of dates with a guy who I met online and I just know, in my gut, that it’s not going to go anywhere. How do I let him down gently?
She Says: It sounds like you respect him – otherwise why even bother letting him down gently? If that’s the case then simply say (in a nice tone) that you don’t see the two of you working out in the long term. Most guys understand that and he’ll likely be interested in being friends! Datingish has a good post on how to let a guy down effectively.
He Says: This is pretty easy. Lots of people go out on a couple of dates and decide they don’t want to get really involved. Just make it simple: tell him the chemistry really isn’t there and wish him good luck. Tell him you’ll mail his socks back….
Jun
8
Love in this Kingdom by the Sea
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Georgina in London: I have fallen for an old friend of mine who I know has slept around. He has probably slept with at least a hundred girls! Should I be worried and will I just be another one of his victims?
He Says: This old friend probably is attracted to you too. In fact, if he has been so sexually active, he probably knows a lot of techniques to attract women. He’s probably something of a playboy. If you play with fire, consider the implications on your friendship when the affair likely ends. It might not be pretty, so it might be better to hold off and confine it to subtle flirting, which can be pretty hot and fun.
She Says: I wouldn’t worry about his ’sleeping around.’ Generally this type of man knows exactly what he wants … which can work in your favor…. Or not. Why not? Because it doesn’t sound like he’s pursuing you. Why are you just friends? Men like him make moves when they meet a girl they want to be with. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been friends.