Jul
9
An Unforgettable Evening…. Then This Happened
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Gail asks: I went on a lovely date with a really wonderful man last week. Everything was perfect until we started passionately kissing and he had a little accident. Should I call him back? I felt so embarrassed for him…
He Says: Whoa. Naturally I would like to hear more details about this, like how adroitly he handled this embarrassing incident, which reflects how confident he is in his skin and at the dating game. He could have some sort of medical issue that could be explained and laughed off. Or it could be a one-off over the pressure of seeming perfect on an early date (and there is a lot of pressure these days!!). If he is a decent guy, you may want to continue the pursuit. Like I have said, no man is perfect and bodies can be a drag sometimes. Don’t forget, you ladies can have a host of embarrassing issues that can also interfere with your ravishingness on occasion. Don’t leave another scarred victim on the dating scene – give the man a call – then dump him if it happens again!
She Says: He will either be mortified or used to it. I’m sure he knows it is a problem. But no. Don’t call him. He will either lose interest in you (he’s used to it) or he will think you’re pity calling him making him avoid calling you back (mortified). But if you’re calling him back I would say yes please do! Everyone needs a second chance… especially if you had a wonderful time with him! These issues are more common than you think!
Jun
23
The Over Excited Male
Filed Under blind dates, crazy women, men in self imposed convents, proposals | 2 Comments
Nancy Rollin Up: My colleague at work set me up with a good friend of hers. We’ve gone out a couple of times, but I really think he’s ready for marriage and I’m not. My colleague keeps on asking me how we’re doing … what do I do?
He Says: It’s nice that your colleague set you up, but let’s face it, blind dates rarely work, since no one knows your chemistry like you do, despite the good intentions of the person setting you up. So I think it’s OK to tell your colleague that you have considerations about your date… You can just say you’re in a different place, or the chemistry isn’t there, or whatever. Most people understand those issues.
She Says: He’s ready for marriage in this recessionary madness? And only after two dates? I’m shocked! and… I think you’re overreacting. First off, I’m sure he likes you but men are always hot and heavy at the start. They build you up in their head and think you’re the one. A few months later you’ll be wondering if he’s ever going to propose. I say these are early days and roll with it. Things are bound to evolve. Time for you to take a breather. And just be vague about it with your coworker. It’s your relationship (not hers) anyway. Unless of course he’s this guy! Then I’d say run for the hills!.