May
29
Crazy Flirtatious Women Acting Crazy
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Slayer from NYC: I have been in the NYC party scene for almost 3 years now, and wanted to know why women with rings on their finger have no hesitation to flirt/converse until it gets to the point of infidelity? Do NYC women just not care about the vows they took, or do they feel like this is the standard of NY nightlife/living?
She Says: I think women in NYC like people and in turn they looooooove attention. Why else would they like living in NYC? But on the other side men in New York WORK like it’s going out of fashion. So the combination of women loving attention and their man slaving away in his cubicle = too much flirting with random men at bars. But flirting takes two. Next time you feel the flirt comin’ on, tone it down!! She’ll take the hint and mosey on.
He Says: It’s definitely part of the scene. Trendy women know they have to be sexually alive to be cool… the media reinforces this constantly. So to express this wild side, they act the part, even if they don’t go through with it, and most won’t. They need to know their charms still work. Don’t get suckered!!
May
29
Isabella in Chinatown: My boyfriend get massages in Chinatown every now and again. I’ve heard stories of men getting a little more than a massage and have become paranoid every time he goes. Should I confront him?
He Says: Uhh yes. Offer to go with him and see the place. Many of these kinds of places do indeed offer massages – and other services. And they show up on credit card bills with benign names that seem like restaurants. I would be seriously concerned if your boyfriend is getting regular ‘massages.’
She Says: Yuck. But OK I get it. The way I look at Chinatown massages…. Turn a blind eye. Who knows? Maybe he’s just getting a massage! Sometimes men just need to get out of their natural habitat and it’s probably healthy for your relationship at home. If the massage is the worst thing he’s going to do then bring on the rub! I’ve included a video of a great looking Chinatown massage. Maybe I should go get one! Or you can give him one at home!
May
29
What Did You Just Call Me?
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Emma from Adamsville, AL: My husband of 3 years has recently started calling me dirty names in bed. I’ve told him time and time again that it bothers me - but he won’t stop. What should I do?
She Says: Compromise! Calling you dirty names might not be fun for you but it’s evidently a turn on for him. And you want to please your man in bed…. Right? But he needs to please you too. So brainstorm names that sound dirty but aren’t necessarily. And maybe use some on him. He might pick up on it!
He Says: This probably means that he wants you to get down and get dirty. Maybe you are too prim and proper in bed – too cuddly and girly. He wants a walk on the wild side. Offer to tie him up and slap him around a bit! Tell him you have fantasies about vampires! Do it on the dining room table! Unleash your inner woman!
May
28
Short Men Love Me
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Manhattan Amazon: I’m 5′7″ and like to wear heels when I go out. I seem to be a magnet for short men - men that are 1 - 3 inches shorter than my natural height - nothing against the man so long as the attitude and character are cool, but I am just curious why I seem to attract shorter men?
She Says: Shorter men typically have to work more to get a good woman. More work = more fun for the girl. Perhaps they’re more engaging, have a great sense of humor or are just really nice. So it may be that you’re just attracted to great personality types and in turn they’re attracted to you. I’m not saying there aren’t tall hilarious guys out there… but generally the less a person has to work at flirting with the opposite sex… the more blasé they become about interaction with other people.
He Says: Well I could offer some purely physical reasons such as his proximity to your upper torso, but that’s not a good enough reason to date. It is also possible that you feel more relaxed around shorter men and they respond positively to this. If in fact you are more relaxed around shorter men, why not give it a try! They may try real hard to overcompensate and make you happy!
May
28
Attracting Men After a Lull
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New to the Game - New York: Hi. I’m an attractive, smart 47 year old woman who’s been separated for 2 years and is ready to date again. How do I let a guy know I’m interested in a subtle way without seeming overly eager? I’ve been married for 27 years so this is all brand new to me.
She Says: First of all, get out there! You can meet men online, at parties, yoga class, anywhere that people congregate. When you’re ‘dating’ it’s best to stay busy. You’ll automatically be more desirable. Secondly, you have to put out the flirt signs. Lick your lips! Twirl your hair! Laugh a lot and smile! And don’t forget to look men in the eye. Nice guys like nice girls with a little flair. But they have to know you’re available.
He Says: The best way is to find out what he is interested in and try to figure out a way for you to spend time together without seeming overly romantic. For instance, if he is into jazz, you might want to off-handedly say you’re planning to go to a concert and perhaps he could come? Ditto for a museum exhibit, dog show, whatever. Then when you get him out, dress sexy and nice (but don’t overdo it) and act really interested in his interests. He’ll get the hint (unless he’s too dense or shy). If he doesn’t pick up cues after a few dates, try brushing up against him or even put your hands in his as you walk somewhere. Either he’ll respond in kind - or freak out and run!
May
27
Jenny in Los Angeles!: I am concerned that my boyfriend of 6 months may be gay. Is there anything I should watch out for in particular?
May
25
Wedding Ring Blues
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Melinda from New York City says: My husband of 6 years has stopped wearing his wedding ring - should I be worried? He says that it’s become too tight but I’m not sure if I believe him. What should I do?
She says: Unless your man has gained a ton of weight… and by weight I mean you can’t recognize him anymore…. Then yes you should be worried. The ring clearly didn’t shrink and gaining finger fat is seriously tricky! Why don’t you suggest resizing the ring? If he objects to that then you have something to talk about.
He Says: Get the ring expanded. Any jeweler can do this. Then if he still doesn’t wear it, there may be another reason! That said, I think that for men, wearing a wedding ring doesn’t stop women from hitting on them. Some women like married guys. It’s safer if they just want a fling. I know: I’ve been married. Wedding rings aren’t handcuffs.